You met this amazing woman, the conversation went well, and you managed to get her number. You called the following day.
No answer; you don't understand. You left her a message telling her that you had a great time and hope to take her out again soon.
So why doesn't she return your call?
It’s been three days since the WOW! date, and she has not called you back. Why not? You're confused.
You have replayed the date in your head and asked your friends for their opinions. But it remains a mystery to you. Is she busy? Sick? Involved with someone else?
You've over-analyzed the time you spent with her, you keep checking your phone, and she still hasn’t called! This happens far too many times in the Dating Game, and the answer is all-too simple.
You just didn't connect!
The reason she has not called back is that she does not feel the same way that you do about the date – or about you.
You probably failed to emotionally connect, or bond, with her at the most basic level. You did not distinguish yourself from the other guys who are also hitting on her.
The next day, she does not have the same feeling about the date that you did. You did not make the same impression on her that she did on you. You quickly fade from her thoughts.
When she goes home after a date with you, she needs to know something about you that makes her feel closer to you.
When you are with her you need to share a moment, a laugh, an experience. This will make you stand out from all the rest and make her want to know more about you.
If you want a woman to pick up your call or call you back, you need to focus on making creating that emotional link. Men feel connected by sharing activities; women feel connected by sharing stories, words and emotions.
While talking with her… ask yourself, "What three things did I learn about her?" and "What did I share about myself with her?"
The answers to these questions are what will be the start of building a relationship. Try speaking to her as you would to any friend.
Pay attention to what she says and try to relate to the information. Remember the names of her friends, where she went to school, where she grew up. Take a true interest in her.
When leaving a message, personalize it by saying something like, “I had a great time last night. I especially enjoyed our conversation and I remember you mentioned how you love Italian food. How about I take you to the little Italian place you mentioned? Speak to you soon!"
By doing this, she will feel emotionally connected and know that you are NOT just another typical guy she has men. She will know you are special. That connection will be made.
Cece Shatz, Friends Connect Tampa Bay
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