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Will I ever find love again? Will I ever feel love again?

Will I ever find love again?  Will I ever feel love again?

Thinking about loving and being loved in the later part of my life, personally, I believe we may never feel the love of our yesteryears. Oh never say never!

 Reality is the love we felt in our youth is forever gone.  The newness, the fresh uninhibited, the take my breath away love, is this truly love or lust?  In our youth were we blinded by lust and thought it was love?  Can we now in our senior years still feel and have the lust?  Oh that is a different subject and one to tackle at another time…

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My thoughts about love are… There are many ways in which to love another, many depths of love itself.  Maybe this is why we have different feelings for different people, friends, family and people who move through our life.

But the question we have in our later years and want to know is …Will we feel loved again? 

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I believe we can, but we have to understand the love of today will not feel or be the same as when we were younger.  It can be wonderful, wonderful for us individually just not as it was.  For many we are dreaming or even chasing the feeling of love we once felt and if we are  lucky to find love in another we often throw it away because it didn’t or wasn’t the same as what we had expected. 

Ask yourself, how can the feeling of love be the same as in our younger years if we are not the same as when we were younger?  What we have to understand is as we have grown and experienced life our feelings for life and others have also evolved.  Things, situations and relationships we once, thought were so important in our lives we have come to understand their true meaning.  We begin to see value and appreciate the smaller things in life.

With this being said, this is where love lies…in the value and appreciate of our self, our friendships and those who have touched us through our lives.  When we can get beyond the dreaming and chasing of love and truly begin to cherish what is before us we begin to see the open door of what can be.  For you see in order to feel love we have to be able to release the hurt and fear of yesteryears. We MUST be able to allow ourselves to give love and to be open to receive such love in return.  We need to begin to have faith in tomorrow and most of all appreciate life today.

The love we will find today is Mature Love.  This kind of love is different new and exciting.    Mature love is the core of love today its foundation is built on years of experience and value.  This love has all the functions of love from yesteryears the elements of feelings from within.  For you see one can achieve this Mature Love only if we believe and allow ourselves to truly love again. 

Will we feel love again?  Only if we truly want to, we all have the ability to give and receive love… We as individuals just need to make the choice.

 

Big Hug!

Cece Shatz,

My Friends Connect, Inc.

Certified Divorce Coach and Public Speaker

 

 





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